This was one of Gerard's toys from when he was her age. He told me that he never thought to sit on it but she did it unprompted.
I have to say that I did not really know how upset I was last night when I wrote that post. I was and still am, over the holding of her breath trick, dusky episode, and the need to feel everything is okay. I think that what most people who have never adopted a toddler do not realize is when you give birth to a could you kind of get a chance to build up to the 2 year old behavior and issues. The other thing is you know all your child's history. Every doctor visit, every cold, every cry I do not. For me Anna is about 3 weeks old. Think back to when you brought your 3 week old infant home were you sure about every move you made like when he or she was 2 years old? I venture to guess probably not.
I know I am tired I feel it but I could not sleep the past few nights for some obvious and some not so obvious reasons. I have a couple of posts in mind that I want to write or have started to write but they are not quite done yet.
***Please I want to make sure that you all know that I have not taken offence to any comments left here on the blog. I hope that you all know that.
16 comments:
Hey! It's all good! Anna is, and should be, your number 1 concern. I feel for you right now. Even we, who did adopt a toddler, forget a bit what it was like when we were just home. Just remember this, it will change. Hopefully that change will be for the better. . .though I suspect you now realize it might not all be. Just love that little girl, as I know you all are doing, with all your heart, and all your soul, and all your mind. God bless, Joy, Gerard and Anna. Our prayers continue for stabler times ahead and continued good health reports.
Joy!!! You are the bomb! It is hard to go from not being a mother to be a mother to a 2 year old overnight!! You are doing so good and keep your head up girl!
I am relieved to hear it went well at the cardiologist. I can imagine the stress of the day, including having 17 vials of blood taken had something to do with the holding her breath.
You are doing a great job, and you are right, it is incredibly difficult, on so many levels, going through a toddler adoption, even as much as we love our little munchkins. Having been through it myself I feel cabable of saying it and knowing what I am talking about. No one that hasn't been through it can understand.
As a parent of an 8 and 5 yr. old already, I'll tell you....you will question yourself about a million times over and never really know if you are doing everything right, BUT the fact that we care and question ourselves and worry about doing everything right....makes it RIGHT.....does that make any sense?
Big hugs!
I never thought of it that way. We are like brand new moms at 3, 4 weeks old. I guess that gets me to almost 6 months old. Getting better but still unsure. As for jumping into the 2 year old phase, Yikes! It's hard work. I think the more people interact with Colby the more they see just how hard it has been to adjust. It gets better, I promise. I am thrilled that she got the A-OK from the cardiologist. What a relief! Keep plugging. THe first month was the hardest, then we started to "tred water" and began to enjoy Colby.
Melissa
Someone recently asked me questions about the adoption. One of the statements was something like "I'm sure you had a blast playing all day and loving this little lady that you'd waited so long for". My answer has been and still is "the first two months were HELL". A year later, I do love playing with this little lady. The experiances make the bond and attachment. You are feeling just what so many of us have felt. Glad the cardio is working well. You're doing GREAT!!
I'm so glad to hear the cardiologist had good news. I hear what you're saying on being a new mom. We were so lost in the beginning and it's tough to go from nothing to be parents of a 2 year old. It's like we missed out on the ramp up phase! ;-)
You are so right about your daughter being 3 weeks to you. My son has been home with me from China for 2 years and he was almost 2 when he came home. I still get nervous when doctors/people ask me about allergies and other medical history because for the 1st 2 years I truely do not know. You are doig a great job keep up the good work!!!!!!
Such good news from the cardiologist!
It is ssooo tough in the beginning. And it seems that no one understands. It does get easier so hang in there. You are doing great.
I think you are doing a wonderful job girl, keep your head up and Im sure things will get better:)
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So glad that Anna is okay. And, I agree that everything can be stressful once home and you are figuring out their routine, habits, behaviors, etc. It gets easier. Just glad that you are doing well! All parents go through this initial learning phase. We all just wing it and pretend we know what we are doing :o)
It makes perfect sense that you would be concerned and yes I totally understand you have only had her for 3 weeks and to you you are 3 weeks a mommy! It never hurts to be cautious. My mom told stories of me holding my breath at about 18 months and actually passing out when I got so mad and she had me from birth. Anything new is new at the time it happens.
Joy , sounds like you are doing a great job. No mother ever knows if what she is doing is completely the right thing for their child. You just have to listen to your heart. It will all work out.
Kathy C.
PS you can not spoil her by picking her up, when she cries.
First off - fantastic news that everything's okay!!! Second off, I have people tell me all the time, that there is no way (not having a child to begin with) that they could go straight into the toddler world which is what most of us have done. It's hard to learn there their tricks because number one - they are still new to us and number two - toddlers are always coming up with new tricks!! I think you're doing great!
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